Money Making Schemes

Was My Relationship Abusive and Why Do I Keep Blaming Myself?

Me and my ex-fiance have just broken up after 2 years. When we first started dating he immediately expressed his deep love for me and said I was the most beautiful woman he knew. We went to high school together and for the past 7 years he had been trying to date me but timing was always off. After a week of dating he was sure that I was the woman for him. He was perfect, romantic, charming, attractive, thoughtful and stable in his career. I was in a transitional period, just graduating from college and me and my roommate were parting ways. He suggested that we move in together. I quickly found out that he was still married but legally separated. The divorce was finalized through our relationship however he kept in contact w/ her and kept naked pictures of her. I was furious and threatened to leave. He then bought a ring and proposed in front of his entire family. I thought that meant something but looking back I see it didn’t.

He all of the sudden became distant and angry. Everything that he loved about me he now hated. I would try to talk to him about my life and he would call me stupid or irritating. Every idea or suggestion that I had he criticized and opposed it and told me it was always dumb. He would always accuse me of cheating and get into arguments with me about my answer even though I always said no. I was walking on egg shells. If I was quiet he told me I didn’t communicate with him, if I talked he told me he hated women who talked too much like me. I was lost and confused. My self-esteem dropped so low that it affected my work and my friendships. He said that he was stressed out about work so I tried to give him space but I was ridiculed for it and he said I didn’t care about him. He told me to focus on grad school and not to work but then he argued that I didn’t help financially. HE said he didn’t have money but he would always make new expensive purchased. One time he lost his temper because it took me too long to get to the car because we had just had a ice storm and I was afraid of falling. He punched walls and broke things and called me a bitch often. I could not ever eat what I wanted to nor could I go somewhere unless he felt like it and he would even change his mind at the last minute. He choked me until I passed out, he punched me in my back and ribs and left bruises. He told me I never listen and that’s why we have so many problems. No matter what I did I felt like I was wrong. He was such a good guy to everyone else but with me he was evil and then wonderful and then back evil again. He used to threaten to kill me if I left but this time he broke up with me and told me to never call him again. This is good for me but I do miss him in some crazy way and I also blame myself from time to time. Is it normal for me to blame myself? I mean he was a good guy sometimes and he took good care of me. Everyone thinks he’s such a good catch and sometimes I think I provoked his behavior. He told me I wasn’t good enough that he needs space that’s why he’s treating me that way but then he also told me he needs help from a counselor and that I should leave him because he wasn’t good enough for me.

So I put a roommate’s purchase on my credit card?

So I’m living in an apartment with a person I met in San Francisco, her credit is shot from identity theft. So when we split up who was buying what, she said she would by the couch. She asked me if I could put it on my credit and she would pay off quickly. I’m four months in now and she’s paid the minimum $100 payment on $2k couch. She’s having some money problems and says she can only make the minimum for the time being and doesn’t know when that will change. If I want that debt paid off sooner rather than later legally what can I do? If we are not roommates anymore by the end of our 1 year lease and I/her move out and the couch is still not paid off do I keep it until she pays it off/how long do have to give her to have it paid off. I really just want this debt off my name, I was under the impression she would have it paid off by now, and it doesn’t seem like that’s going to happen anytime soon. It’s really stressing me out, please help. Thanks in advance Van

Why do so many L!berals turn a blind eye to Obama’s Crony Capitalism?

The Triumph of Crony Capitalism; Want to get ahead in business? Make friends in Washington.

First President Bush, then President Obama poured billions into General Motors and Chrysler to keep the companies alive but barely breathing. That was just for starters. Next came Obama’s creation of an Auto Task Force to oversee the auto companies. To head the task force, the president picked Steve Rattner, a Wall Street investor with no experience in automaking but lots in raising campaign money for Obama and Democrats.

GM and Chrysler were quickly restructured, mostly to the benefit of the United Auto Workers, the union which spent millions in 2008 to elect Obama and Democrats. The UAW now owns 17.5 percent of GM and 55 percent of Chrysler–quite a return on an investment of zero dollars. Obama said all parties should “sacrifice,” but only bondholders did. They got a fraction of what they were legally entitled to receive. UAW retirees, in contrast, got a gift of $9.5 billion at GM and $14.2 billion at Chrysler.

Crony capitalism is usually identified with Third World despots, like Hugo Chávez, who reward their friends and allies in the business and financial communities. Some might be appointed to top government jobs, as Rattner was. But the chief characteristic of crony capitalism is favoritism for some companies or organizations (unions, for example)–in loans, grants, giveaways, and specific policies.

There’s another aspect. Obama isn’t merely rewarding a few cronies, he’s seeking more and more favored groups to reward. One way he’s doing this is through his energy, health care, and other policies, which would boost certain companies and industries over others. Another way is by providing cheap capital, which gives firms an advantage over competitors who must acquire capital at higher interest rates in private markets. The Federal Reserve, along with Obama’s Treasury Department, plays a big role here.

Crony capitalism is a two-way street. Obama gains politically from it. His administration has guaranteed $306 billion in toxic assets (mostly subprime mortgages) held by Citigroup and taken a 34 percent ownership stake in the giant investment bank. In return, Citigroup lobbied Congress to give judges “cramdown” authority, the power to alter the terms of housing contracts. The legislation was defeated.

Besides subsidizing the UAW, Obama has exploited his takeover of GM to reward at least one liberal special interest, the environmental lobby. The Auto Task Force decided GM should produce a class B, Yugo-like car in the United States (instead of China as previously planned), an auto tentatively dubbed Spark. GM has little expertise in manufacturing a cheap, lightweight, low mileage car of this class, nor is there an obvious market for it.
http://business.highbeam.com/2001/article-1G1-203199714/triumph-crony-capitalism-want-get-ahead-business-make

What recourse do I have with the police or courts?

I was involved in an auto accident. I was traveling south west on a road and approached a line of cars a the stop sign. The stop sign is on the corner of a major road at a ‘T’ intersection. The cars on the main road traveling northwest, which would be a right turn from my road, were stopped due to bumper to bumper traffic. The traffic lane traveling south east on the main road was mostly clear of any traffic at all. Since some of the cars on my side road were turning left, away from traffic, the cars on the main road were leaving space for them to go through and make a left turn.

The driver of an suv waved 2 cars in front of me to go through from the stop sign we were waiting at. They did so cautiously and turned left. When I approached the stop sign, I came to a full stop and looked at the same driver on the main road. She then waved me through as well, so I then started making my turn moving forward and looking to my right for oncoming traffic from the other direction. When I saw that there were no cars coming from the other direction I pressed harder on the gas to continue making my turn, only then do I lookup and see the suv that waved me through quickly trying to pass in front of me just inches from my bumper. And the front of my car impacted the passenger side of her car near the rear wheel by the time I hit the brakes

The law requires that I perform my due diligence to be sure that the right of way is clear in both directions before proceeding with my turn. Not only did I confirm that the suv facing me on my left was not moving, I also confirmed with the driver that the same right of way (northwest) was clear by the fact that she directed me to enter her lane while I was at the stop sign.

Now the driver of the suv admitted that she waved me through in her statements to police. In addition to that admission I have a witness that approached me after the accident who offered her testimony on my behalf. But the police officer still gave me a citation for “failure to yield right of way”.

I argue that while the suv did have the right of way on the main road originally, a driver can not grant right of way to another vehicle and then take it back. Once right of way is granted, it must remain granted with the other vehicle. Otherwise there would be nothing to stop drivers from “legally” ramming other drivers in this situation for insurance money. Therefore since the suv driver admitted to police that she did indeed grant me right of way, I would like for her to receive a citation for her actions and failure to yield right of way to me, and failure to use due care in granting right of way. But the police refuse to discuss it further, and I won’t get my claim paid by the suv’s insurance unless the police report finds her a fault, which she is.

What else can I do to get this police report changed. Should I go over the officers head to her boss or will they just stick together? How can I find out the law about this specifically in GA?

We aren’t really married- what should I do?

Him: divorced 12 years. Me: never married. We have a great, fun, sweet relationship. He asked me in the first year if we could buy a house together in the next few years. I said yes, but I’d like us to be married. I’ve always wanted to be married, and I knew pretty soon that he was it. He was gunshy from his divorce but agreed we would marry. Two years later we found a house and I said it was time to marry. He was weird about and couldn’t say why, hesitated to tell friends and family. I have a great therapist who encouraged me to go forward, saying many men are weird about marriage, especially the second time.

We bought our house and planned a low-key backyard wedding. He remained less than enthused but kept saying he wanted to do it. Then it was time to apply for the license and he couldn’t find his divorce papers. He had his ex-wife search for hers and neither could find them. They called their divorce lawyer, who said he’d never actually filed the papers as neither of them told him to. They were both in shock to find they were still married after 12 years.

I was completely freaked out and thought about cancelling the wedding, but we decided to go through with it and he and his ex would quickly get divorced. The wedding was amazing- all our friends and family there. I felt married and thought of the divorce as just a legal complication.

A month after the wedding, I ran into his ex wife, who revealed that they’d never even filed for divorce, that he’d lied to me about it. She said they weren’t romantically together at all but had stayed married for money and insurance reasons. When I went home and confronted him, he kept insisted that he’d thought they were divorced until he finally broke down and admitted he lied. That he’d been procrastinating the divorce, that once he met me, he kept meaning to get divorced but never got around to it. That once we planned the wedding, he and his ex got together to start the process, got in a big fight about assets and he’d been putting off meeting with her again.

I was a wreck. I couldn’t talk to close friends or family about it, because I knew they’d hate him. My therapist was upset but said it was no cause to leave him. That she understood his divorce procrastination. I decided to stick it out, and he promised he’d make the divorce top priority and then we’d get legally married.

It’s three months later. He’s barely closer to a divorce than he was when we had our wedding. She’s gotten contentious about assests, he’s had an illness, a huge amount of stress at work, and in spite of my periodic meltdowns, hasn’t made the divorce his #1 priority. Now the ex is talking about mediation and seems more reasonable. They plan to meet this week to work out a plan.

But I am sort of losing it. I understand the never-divorcing part. I sort of even understand the procrastination (which he is a master at). But I don’t understand him knowing I am in huge pain and not fast-forwarding the divorce. I want to stay with him- I love him and beleive he is a good, if not flawed, man. I don’t suspect anything with the ex. But I hate this. I feel utterly alone– I am one to talk things over with friends and I can’t do that here. I feel like no one would understand. I’ve gained weight since the wedding. Eating stress, I know. I get really, really angry with him sometimes and he gets angry back. He doesn’t seem to really understand, or want to understand, what a nightmare this is for me.