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2 years later…still not over my Ex?

some days are better than others. like right now for instance, not a good day.
Was with my ex for a total of 7 yrs…engaged the last year of it. After on again off again (mistakes he made on his end= betrayal) He came back full throttle to commit on a serious level- so much so that he would drive 365 miles to visit me for 5 months straight just to spend 2 days with me in his quest to win me back. He eventually apologized to my Mother & Father for his unfounded, immature behavior in how he had treated their daughter (me). He reasoned with them and explained he wanted to make me his wife.
While we went to therapy- and i founded in my heart to forgive him, we tried to move on from his mistakes…in the past and all throughout the relationship. His goal was to put everything on the table in hopes that he could turn over a new slate and start fresh.
After almost 11 months of this—positive behavior, he proposed to me and I lovingly and purely accepted. I waited almost 6 years for this…indeed it did happen.
I agreed to move to another country (at the time he was working there also a citizen) and planned to immigrate while we planned a wedding.
This is where is gets… really really sad. When I moved up there, everything was going well for the first 3 months- However, I did noticed he seemed on another page when it came to wedding plans (just seemed disinterested) and then he never wanted to discuss plans about our future (tangible plans-like baby, budget, house, etc.) I was always the one to initiate discussion. When it came to his only request which involved merging “legally” he mentioned a pre-nup… I should have known this was a red flag! As time moved closer to planning our wedding, I asked him countless times if he could help fill out the “couples questionnaire” for the wedding officiant… i asked so many times it ended up being a battle. then came wedding invites…his alternative to saving money on the wedding was to e-mail invites to 200 guests -the only suggestion he even gave.
At this point-I noticed he seem disinterested and it really started to depress me. Then out he came with- we should cancel the wedding. He said were not getting along…and this is suppose to be the happiest part. (mind you-I have a ring on my finger, a venue booked, a dress bought, etc) he tells me this 8 months into the engagement. Then like clockwork-he seemed relieved and when I threatened to leave because of this… he cried and begged me not too. I listened to him and wanted so badly to believe his intentions were pure and he really wanted to work on “compromising.” I stayed and waited and waited. And as I waited he expected me to bounce back back as quickly as him- (not so much) In fact, I started to resent him. I felt as if he was making excuses- then I started to pull away and then he did. Then I would try to move closer-then he would pull away.
Eventually- He called me to tell me he was sleeping over a friends house and was planning on drinking. I advised him to be safe and not to drive. Funny thing is- next morning he came home and looked…well like his conscience was eating at him. The moment I felt this(i have felt this before) I asked him if he did something that I need to know. He looked me dead in the eye and proceed to say NO then kiss me. Afterward hopped in the shower and seem “in another world.” That very same day we were suppose to drive to the border and finalize my immigration papers. Before we left- he told me that he was with another girl the night before. Here I am- a state of complete numbness while I am hearing this. It was like deja vu all over again,
After a 6 hour walk by myself- I told him I was leaving him and proceeded to say “Thanks this just confirmed everything”
As I left a week later- I left my hopes, my dreams, and everything I wanted to build for the last 7 years. He took all of that away from me.
A year way from him- he still contacted me told me he missed my friendship.
Year 2 was actually harder-the shock value wore off and reality set in. I actually ended up missing him more than ever. We spoke briefly during this time and I once again fell into the ridiculous trap of getting my heart broken all over again- as he told me that his work will send him to the Czech Republic- my heart cringed and again-despair came over me. I politely asked him to end communication with me as it effected me way too much-as I still had love for him.
He just recently contacted me in September- wishing me well.
I can’t understand this person-? Even when I am not with him- I still am deeply enveloped.
I miss what we had- I miss the fun- the adventure- our commonalities. I had never in my life time been in love with someone as much as i was with him.
Now we are just strangers- Why does this pain heart so bad……. Why?
And is he thinking of me the same as i think of him?

Short Story Help and Ideas?

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I would really appreciate it if someone would help me by making corrections or adding new ideas to my short story. I kind of just adding random ideas into my story.
Please help.
I’m actually really no good with writing.
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I’m not one to complain, but there is a point where one has to break.
Cave in, collapse, gone.
You could actually really feel the searing pain,
It’s a feeling. An unexplained feeling.
Rising up; always trying to find it’s way up.
But you continuously keep pushing it down.
Burying your problems. Avoiding them.
Internally, breaking you down.
While on the outside, nothing is touch. Nothing is harmed.
Feelings and emotions get built up, like when red bloods clot.
It hurts, but I’m strong.
I wish it would all just stop.
Cease.
With the snap of my fingers, everything would go away,
That’s how I imagine it.
But we are living in reality. It’s not how it is in dreams.
In dreams, you could make it anyway you want it,
But with my life and especially mine, nothing can be anyway you want it..
I know it would all stop soon.
I once heard a saying that, “Things become worst before they’re better.”
I would always wished and waited for that “better.”
As I get up reaching for the door, I pat myself down and tell myself I’m all right.
I walk out my bedroom door, pushing all my feelings aside and afar,
I spot my parents.
Quickly and swiftly as a fox, I sense hatred.
Right when I walk into the room, it’s just full agony; for both my parents and I.
Now, one would be happy, even sense enjoy by the appearance of their parents, but not I.
Definitely and utter mostly, not I.
I despise my parents so much.
Hate could even be thrown in that.
My family isn’t like other families.
Mine is much different.
A great deal of difference..
My name is Bonnie Liu.
I have five members in this household, that is including myself.
I have a father and a mother.
And also two brothers, who keep me in check.
My father’s name is Aiden.
My mother’s, Shanea.

And my two brothers, Matthew and Alexandre.
For short, I call them Matt and Alex.
We all live in Berlin, Germany.
This place, I also despise very much.
I’d always hope to leave this place.
Leave with my two brothers, Matt and Alex.
Matt, who was the oldest could legally take over both Alex and I when he turned eighteen.
I remember that I was so anxious for that day to come.
Both Matt and Alex keep me sane.
They keep me rooted right to the ground.
Without them, I could not imagine to go on.
All of us share a little something.
Symptoms; We all are ill.
Sick, in fact.
We share quite a number of them.
ADD, ADHD, ,Aspersers, Down Syndrome are some of what we have.
We have to take pills daily to keep us from “bursting.”
You should also know that my parents were the farthest thing from being parents.
They’re alcoholics. Enough said.
Sometimes I think that they needed help more than us.
I’m not sure of what my parents really wanted to do.
They were always drunk. There was not one time I stumbled into either one of them and they wouldn’t be drunk. It was pretty sad that they would have a life like this, but I have no pity for them They deserve what they do, which is being drunk. They could of stopped long ago, but obviously they didn’t. They never pay attention to either one of us. So Matt, Alex, and I had to take care of each other and help out one another. Money was abit tight so all three of us would work, considering we were in Germany, there was no age requirement. But soon enough, we found ourselves poor. We had no choice, but to sell drugs. It was our last resort, we could not do anything about it.
I would think of Matt as my second father.
He was always there for me.
Growing up, I even thought he was my father. He helped me through so many things that my real father didn’t even bother to care for.
Alex, my brother is a real savior also.
In my times of darkness, he always lit me up with his great words of advice.
Together, we were perfect.

In the end, Matthew passed away with his fiance, Jesse, Alexandre is in jail for several offenses such as selling drugs, and I?
I’m currently in my adopted family.

4 years later Aiden turned 18 and took legal gaurdianship over me,Matthew,and Alexandre.
He then moved us out to the states.
Aiden was a better father figure to me then any of my “fathers” before him.
Unfortunately I have lost him.
He was killed in a tragic car accident that killed both him and his fiance’.
Since Matthew has past on I have been put into a new family, Alexandre is in jail for several offenses.
No one will truely understand the connection I had with my brothers.

In Ont. is it possible for a father to voluntarily relinquish his parental rights with the mother’s consent?

My ex husband abandoned me and our two children 4 months ago after a long 7 year marriage filled with multiple affairs, threats to leave, and unhealthy behavior on his part. He has never been close with either of our children and did not treat them well… they deserve much better. Long story short, it was a huge relief to finally see him go and be done with it. We have only been legally separated since a week after he left (just in January) and will be divorced in January of 2012 (unfortunately it seems we have to wait a full year after separating in order to make the divorce final… I can’t seem to find any way around this, but if anyone knows of a way please let me know!). Since then I have started seeing an amazing man who started as a good friend, but our relationship has grown and deepened into a serious and very committed one. He loves my two daughters and would like to eventually marry me and adopt the girls as his own. My ex husband wants nothing to do with the kids and has been refusing to pay child support. He is working under the table, so short of taking him to court and putting him in jail, it’d be difficult, pricey and just plain exhausting to be hounding him for the rest of my life trying to get money out of him. And he is like that… he could go his entire life without once working through the system (and reminded me of it himself). I don’t want to spend my life chasing him – I don’t want anything to do with him and he doesn’t want anything to do with us. I would rather just allow him to relinquish his rights at this point as my daughter wants nothing to do with him either, my baby doesn’t even know him, and my significant other is hoping to adopt them and love them as his own. I brought this up to him and he is willing to give up his rights completely as he is planning on moving to Colorado within the year with his new girlfriend. I am happy with this outcome… I want him far away and I never want to have to deal with him again. I brought it up to our older daughter and she was so excited at the thought of him not being her daddy anymore that she jumped up and down squealing and hugging me. My question is this: Can we sign a mutual (legal) agreement through a mediator/lawyer stating that he has relinquished his rights rather than going through the court system? I want to do this as quickly, peacefully and inexpensively as possible. Is it possible for this to be a simple process?? I’ve heard mixed things… someone on another board had said that it’s not possible unless there is already someone ready to adopt the kids… and because the divorce wouldn’t be final until January, I wouldn’t be getting remarried until probably the following summer, at which point he would adopt the children then. However, we would rather not wait until then for my ex to relinquish his rights. Some people say that there needs to be a judge involved whether I am willing to let him walk away from his rights or not, and that the judge would need hard evidence that he is an unfit/unsafe father in order to allow him to stop paying child support and to give up his rights. Other sites say that even if he relinquishes all rights and responsibilities, he would still need to pay child support… that doesn’t make sense to me and I am willing to take him off the hook for child support on the grounds that he just leaves us alone from now on. Anyway, I’m confused by all the conflicting answers on the internet, so please let me know if you know anything about this or if you have experience with a similar situation. I’m in Ontario, Canada.
Thanks!

Also, does anybody know what kind of cost we are looking at to do this?

Am I Responsible for the Late Fee?

I live in San Diego County, California. I had a month-to-month rental with two roommates I will call A and B. They already rented the apartment for two years by the time I moved in. I needed a cheap place to stay and had three weeks to find a place, so I quickly responded to their ad and moved in two weeks later. The owner of the building, whom I’ll call C, is a lawyer and said I’m under A and B and they are my landlords now.

I have been unhappy with them for some time, and I couldn’t take it anymore. We pay our rent on the 1st of the month, and I gave them written notification (which I have a copy of) saying that I will be moving out on the 14th of October. Well, I moved out two days ago, but agreed to pay up to the 14th, which is what the law says I have to do. I gave them the notification on the 14th of September, and California law says I am responsible for paying up until then. I also printed off some pages from the state government’s site that said a landlord cannot make the tenant pay for routine cleaning between tenants and that I am only responsible for rent up to the 14th of the month. A told me that $50 of the $200 deposit had to go towards cleaning the apartment for the next person to move in, but I printed off the page from the California’s state government site that said that it is illegal for them to do that, unless of course, I left so much trash and/or destroyed the place. I also printed off a page that says I am not responsible beyond the 14th of the month and only have to pay 14/31 of this month’s rent.

I went on Craigslist and posted an ad and responded to ads of those who are looking for rooms, but out of the four legitimate responses, one came close to renting, but backed out before she paid the security deposit. The others decided they were not interested. A and B kept going after me to find a roommate, and though I am not legally bound to do that, I tried my best and told them they can search, too.

B told me that I can use the security deposit to pay what I owe, and I will owe them $20 after that, which I will give to them in the form of a money order, so I can have record of paying them. I have one more week to get the furniture out (and will do it on Monday as a friend has a truck and has the day off).

They got charged a late fee of $50 and are expecting me to pay it. I gave them notice in a written form, as well as electronically (and kept a copy). Am I responsible for paying the $50 fee? Will they win against me if they sue me in small claims court? I work several part-time jobs and individually, none of them equal up to the minimum amount of $217.50 that I have to be left with, so I don’t know if they’d even get anything from each employer.

Also, A and B are good friends with the owner, C, who is a lawyer, so I worry he will be able to represent them in small claims court, while I just have the papers printed off from the website as well as the written notification, and the stubs from the money order. I’m especially worried that they will find out I didn’t get a new job (which is the reason I gave them for moving), but instead, moved into a cheaper, drama-free place that’s about two miles away. That will hurt my case, especially if C is a good lawyer. I lied about the job because when I moved in in May, it was a verbal agreement and they said to stay at least four to five months, but they would prefer that I stay until the end of their semester (they are graduate students).

One last thing: will they have a hard time suing me if they are not US citizens? They are here on student visas.

Negligence Question, please give me your opinion, indicate if you area lawyer please?

Okay, this is a messed up story and now we hate each other. This happened to me and my roommate last year. Okay here is the situation:

We didn’t have a kitchen table because of the size of our apartment (we’re college students) so I was eating on the couch and there was no room to put my glass of water on the coffee table so I put it on the ground next to the couch. In regards to the table, there was no room on the coffee table because my roommates were complete slobs and never picked their plates/bowls/cups up after they were done eating and I was sick of cleaning up after them like I was their mother (Nothing that was on the table belonged to me either). Anyways, I ended up accidentally kicking the cup of water over and spilling about a half a glass of it on the carpet next to the couch. I immediately grabbed a dry rag and soaked as much up as I could just so there wasn’t water laying on the carpet. About an hour and a half later, me and my friend that was there left to go see another friend at his apartment.

Here’s where it gets messed up. While we’re over at our friends my one roommate comes over and asks who spilled the water on the carpet. I quickly said I did but that I picked it up right away. And then he replied that he found his computer (a Mac Book Pro) in a pool of water under the couch (where he had left it) and that it wouldn’t turn on anymore. Then proceeded to blame me for what happened and demanded I buy him a new Mac Book Pro. A note on the couch: it is one of those with a flap of fabric that goes to the ground so there was no way I could see under it or know that his laptop was even there at all.

Now, in the first place I am a college student and I don’t have that kind of money to throw around and also, I don’t feel like its my fault because there was nothing I could do to avoid the situation and how was I supposed to know his laptop was there. If I knew it was there I would never have put my glass of water where I did. Can someone help me out here? I feel bad about the situation but is it legally my responsibility or does he have to take charge of where he leaves his things? Also, he is being a huge ****** about the whole thing and its really making me hate him.

P.S. He also tried to turn his laptop on when it was apparently still wet, which fries the hard drive. If he would have waited until it was dry there is a very good chance that it never would have broken. This, I believe is his fault as well.

To make it very clear, there was no way I could know his laptop was there, it was essentially hidden from me

Another situation like this is if he had put the laptop on the couch and covered it with a blanket and then got mad when someone sits on it…how is that that person’s fault?